jump out of the plane

When you go skydiving, they warn you not to grab onto anything inside the plane. Not the metal bars. Not the seats. Nothing that’s firmly attached and therefore not coming with you on the way down.  Because if you grab the plane, you might not let go. (Or, you’ll...

I’m sorry

I feel like I’m reaching my “no longer afraid to apologize for all the shitty things I did in my past” era.  Like, I’m sorry for being that bitch (and we all know I’ve been that bitch).  I’m sorry for constantly trying to manipulate everyone around me into...

you don’t need permission

You’re not too old. It’s not too late. And you can’t do it wrong. If you think you are, it is, or you can, it’s just your ego trying to keep you from trying anything outside your comfort zone. But what your ego doesn’t know is that you can’t control any of it anyway...

I know why you’re not happy

You think it’s because you’re single and are going to die alone. You think it’s because you never became the doctor your parents always hoped you’d become. Or because you can’t write the novel swimming around inside you head. You think it’s because the barista spelled...

it’s all about you

You’re built for relationships. And at the same time, you can’t save the people you love. You can’t make them feel better. You can’t control them. You can’t change them—no matter how hard you try or how much you want to.  And that’s terrifying.  Because what...

how to be happy

Guys, I figured out the key to happiness. Turns out it’s all about giving your power away to things like brand new furniture (and then hoping the joy lasts longer than the 12 minutes it took them to unload the stuff). Just kidding (though how great does this yellow...

arguing for your limitations

What arguing for your limitations looks like: Closing yourself off from possibility because you know you don’t have the money, the time, or the energy Refusing to find a creative solution (refusing to see the magic of life) Totally believing your external...